How to use Dating Apps more Effectively.

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Last Updated on June 19, 2022 by Andrea Sharma

With the surge of COVID-19, a vast number of people have no choice but to turn to online dating apps.
While online dating apps will get you dates from sitting at home, it is also very necessary that you do not waste your time on the apps and then end up with the wrong person.

There are many people on the dating apps including some fake profiles as well. And that is the reason why you need to be extra careful of the fact that you do not fall for the wrong person.

This article aims to save your time and give you some tips and tricks on how to navigate through dating apps more effectively.

All these tips are being given from the experience but obviously, there is no guidebook to online dating, so I write this with the hope that it helps my readers.

DOs.

How to use dating apps effectively

1. Choose an app carefully

This goes without saying but there are a lot of dating apps available in the market, each app has its specific vibe and purpose inviting a specific set of people to its platform.
Starting from Tinder to Bumble to Hinge. All these apps are known for offering something similar yet very different from each other.
So figure out which set of people you belong to and accordingly choose an app for yourself.

2. Go for verified profiles

It does not cost a thing to create and avail a few facilities on the dating apps. So a lot of miscreants join the apps with fake names, take advantage of people’s emotions and send unsolicited images. To avoid all these, make sure you match with only the verified profiles on the app.

3. Try to identify the Red Flags

There are a few things that you need to beware of before investing your time and emotions in a person. There are certain behaviours that should not be tolerated if you want to further a relationship. For example, if they are replying to you late or giving singe word replies, if they are being possessive and overly protective, if they start to doubt you and control you, or if they constantly pester you by asking for your pictures and etc. Then rest assured, these sorts of people are huge red flags. Wait for better.

4. Voice call and Video call before meeting

To call someone for the first time whom you have only known on the internet is very anxiety-inducing, isn’t it? Now imagine meeting someone without even hearing their voice!  People with anxieties would relate the most to it. But, taking the courage to call the person for five minutes before the meeting is much better than meeting them directly. And if you could make that call into a video call, then even better. Calling them beforehand would give you some comfort and will make you less nervous before the meeting.

5. Do thorough research before going to an actual date

Be it online or offline, It is always for the best to do a thorough background check on a person than getting catfished. In today’s world, you never know what a person is capable of, so make sure to get the person’s social media accounts and check for yourself if those accounts look real or suspicious.

6. Be clear on what you expect from the person

More often than not, people do not have the same expectations from you as you have of them. They might want something casual and temporary whereas you might expect something long-term from them or vice versa. In this case, there is no point in wasting each other’s time. To communicate well with each other before moving forward in the relationship.

DON’Ts.

What not to do while using dating apps

1. Do not take Ghostings personally

Ghosting people after talking to them for a while is a very unfortunate reality in today’s generation. The reason could be anything, but one thing you need to note from here is that someone ghosting you has nothing to do with you. It’s the person’s trait, and they keep doing it to different people.

2. Do not overshare

I know we often lose control and share a lot of information about ourselves with a stranger or with someone whom we only know for a while, but take care of this thing. Especially on the internet, take your time and do not share anything before you meet the person in real, get to know them and establish trust.

3. Do not share your personal details early on

This again is something which is very dangerous, do not share anything with strangers or acquaintances that can be used against you. Also, do not share your personal details, there are a lot of fraudulent found on the dating apps who can use your identity to create a nuisance.

4. Do not keep many expectations

Be it online or offline, we always know that expectations hurt. The lesser the expectations the better, especially in the online mode it is futile to keep any expectations without actually knowing the person. 

5. Do not get emotionally invested

Again, if you are someone who is overly emotional and get attached to people real soon, then you will have to be extra careful about where you are putting your emotions in. Give some time to yourself, get to know the person and only then think of furthering the relationship. I know it is easier said than done but then we can always keep reminding our subconscious minds to beware.

To Conclude,

Adventuring through dating sites is hard, to be honest, somedays you match with a lot of people and you are over the top and on other days there are only some matches. Let me tell you that it is absolutely normal. It is like how it happens in a stock market, with ups and downs. But to get out of it sane, go through the tips and tricks on how to use dating apps more effectively, there is no particular guidebook to this but whatever is written in this article has been said from experience only. Hope it helps and you find a potential match for yourself. Happy Swiping. 🙂

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